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About this Blog: Divorce is something you do, not something you are. It is not easy, but it can be funny. I know hanging on to my humor gave me hope and courage. Divorce shouldn't cramp your style. There are whole industries devoted to helping brides plan their weddings -- why shouldn't we have a style guide for divorce?

Friday, October 7, 2011

Be That Person You Could Have Been and Might Still Become

Taking Purl this weekend to GeekGirlCon - the conference celebrating female geeks of all ages.  Neither one of us can boast having an ongoing or intense geeky interest, but I'm taking her anyway.  It's hard to explain.  It's not just that I want her to become an electrical engineer or computer code designer or to start playing hours of video games.  It's the breathtaking fierce emotional risk-taking of doing something that others don't understand that I want her to see.  I want to show Purl that you should always work with what you have, you know, bloom in place, and practice satisfaction.  But I want her to be fearless in exploring that space -- where you are should be a pathway to creativity, not an obstacle.  And that's important in a small town, where cultural conformity can feel suffocating (it's not, but you have to be courageous to combat that illusion).  It's also a trope to say it's small-town conformity, when it's really an American insecurity in general.  So that's why I'm going too.  It's fall, it's going to be a long winter.  Let's shake things up.