About this Blog


About this Blog: Divorce is something you do, not something you are. It is not easy, but it can be funny. I know hanging on to my humor gave me hope and courage. Divorce shouldn't cramp your style. There are whole industries devoted to helping brides plan their weddings -- why shouldn't we have a style guide for divorce?

Sunday, April 24, 2016

Finding a Printer

Kickstarter Update:  During the last two months, I worked hard with my designer to refine the appearance of The Style Guide to Divorce and ready it for publication. I arranged for the rights to the images and proofread out of place commas. I spent less time marketing and promoting my Kickstarter campaign. While the campaign garnered sincere support, for which I am grateful, it wasn't fully funded. 

Please stay tuned for publishing and marketing updates. I have several options for self-publishing and also have the e-book ready to go.  I am now researching my options for distribution and marketing, as well as on-line purchasing of the print book. There are a couple of local book fairs and writers' conferences that I hope to attend this fall, but I should have at least some copies for sale by the end of spring.

Thanks everyone for your support!



Friday, March 4, 2016

Chapter 3 Sneak Preview - The History of Divorce Style

I'm happy to share here a sneak preview of Chapter 3 of my book.  If you like it, go to Kickstarter and fund the project!  #StyleGuidetoDivorce.  Thanks!





Sunday, February 28, 2016

Keep Your Spirits Up!

Who'd ever think you need a special menu when divorcing?  Well you do, and here it is.  Here is the sneak preview of Chapter 2 of The Style Guide to Divorce.  Enjoy!





Thursday, February 11, 2016

Book Layout!


I'd like to thank my book designer, Annette Winter, for helping me move my project forward. Thanks to her efforts, here's what The Style Guide to Divorce  looks like now!




Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Uploading. . . Please Wait

Interested?  Intrigued?  I am!

Thanks to a lot of people and the luck of many circumstances, I've not procrastinated so much over the last year to de-rail plans to publish these essays in a real live (or e-published) book!

Knowing absolutely nothing about the real-world of publishing, I'm pursuing the self-published route.  I think that means the next step is to hire an editor and a book designer.  Which means that really, the next step is to figure out how much it will cost to hire an editor and book designer.  Then of course, finding the money to hire those people, and then, hiring them, doing the work, getting it printed, and marketed, and VOILA, you're published! As simple as that, I guess.  If you know anything about publishing costs for this first phase of the first step (how much to hire an editor and designer), please inform me!

I'm hesitating to post a link to the prototype here, so just e-mail me if you are a real person and genuinely want to read it and give me feedback.

Sunday, November 17, 2013

Thanks, but I don't need any more Material!

For my memoir, that is.

It's November, and it's National Novel Writing Month.  NaNoWriMo (nan-o-ree-mo for those of you in the Midwest, and Naah-Noe-Rhy-Mo, perhaps, if you are in another part of the country, or Canada, except for Montreal*)

* If you live in Quebec, you are not allowed to enter the New Yorker cartoon caption contest, for reasons unknown to me.  Is it because you might write your entry in French?  What if you promise to enter an english language only caption?  Is humor really different up there in French Canada?

So anyway, I began anew a book called The Style Guide to Divorce.  I used some of the material I had pulled together for the actual "Style Guide" as a guide.  But then since the goal of NaNoWriMo is 50,000 fresh words, I had to create an actual new novel with that title out of previously unwritten words.

And so I began as if I were a character editor from the guide, but living her post-marital life and then getting inspired to write a guide for other people.  It was fairly meta, at first, and I couldn't figure out which was the real-time me, the character in the novel, or the character inside the character, the one that "Katie" would create to be a fictional editor of the guide.  But you have to keep writing whether you know the answer to that or not, and so I kept writing.  Eventually I ran through all the sections from the guide that I'd previously pulled together - spirituality, exercise, fashion, diet and re-invented the copy as an episode in "Katie's" life.  Pretty soon Katie was in therapy, talking through a lot of the information with her therapist, "Justine" and with her sassy friend "Shirley," and of course butting heads with her daughter "Zoey."

That pretty much got me into Week 2, when I stared at the computer screen and ate a lot of brownies that I kept jumping up to bake when I couldn't handle that I didn't have any literary ideas to write down.  But then I had to come up with more new material, and then more after that.  And I had no "new" material, I just had all the stuff in my head about things that had happened to me.  Up until now, I thought they were boring and pathetic.  Now, they were a way to reach 50,000 words by the end of the month.

Funny, when I posted the initial description of my novel on the NaNoWriMo website, I called it a memoir.  Now I am trying it on for size, seeing if I can put down these various episodes without falling off a steep literary cliff into nothingness.

Now that I am into Week 3, and more than 30,000 words, I am encouraged.  And again, please folks, I don't need any more material.  I have enough trials and tribulations in my adult life to make up the remaining 20,000 words in the month, and even if I'm a little short, I've got a few doozies in my childhood that will fill in the gaps.  So please folks, here are a few tips.

My memoir attempts to lay out in a meaningful way about my personal challenges, the ones leading me to go to law school at the end of a marriage, then return to the same small town with the degree.  As you might imagine, things didn't all fall nicely back in place.  They got more complicated.

I've got people coming up to me saying "what are you doing here" - as if they'd have rather I'd not returned.  I've got people introducing me to others as "she used to be married to . . . . " even though I think there's probably a dozen nice ways to describe me without highlighting that."  I've had people just cut me out of plans, and conversations - which is a total sandbox ploy from grade school.  Enough folks, I've got enough material.  I don't need anymore.

Please stay tuned tho, for my NaNoWriMo progress.  In the middle of Week 2, I thought about not finishing, but now I'm interested to see what happens to my characters at the end of the novel, and perhaps even get a few readers.